For the last five months, as many as 16 people a day have been arriving and “aggressively demanding sex” from Matthew Herrick, according to a complaint filed Wednesday by the West Harlem man’s attorneys.An ex-boyfriend has been allegedly creating the fake accounts. To all the young, college-educated women out there who feel like Donald Trump will probably become president before they find a decent, eligible man, take comfort.In “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” out today, Birger, a former writer for Fortune and Money magazines, crunched demographic, census and other data to show that it really is historically rough out there for the ladies.Better options include Silicon Valley, San Francisco, San Diego and Columbus, Ohio. Paula Paulette is going to be 80 in April — and she’s online dating.Dating people in other boroughs qualifies as a long-distance relationship. If it helps, once we really like one of you, the other four are history within an hour. "He wants to go to Neil's on Third," we will tell our friends. He's really serious about you," they will say if it's a great bar, and, "Ugh, maybe you should just cancel," they will say if it's a bad one. There are certain parts of town we can't even go near because they remind us of our exes. So telling me you'll meet me "around 9" will result in us meeting up "around never."10. Especially if you don't make reservations near my office and want me to meet you there at 7. This city is so full of places to fall in love with and things to be excited about and we want to do all of it.If you live in the Bronx and I don't, you are not my soul mate. And if you are, I'm sorry but that commute is no fucking joke and I simply cannot. One group text is sent and we're all yours (JK, JK). Our city is pretty compact, so even though it might sound nuts to be like, "I can't go to the East Village," that's actually like saying, "I don't love going near Exit 19B" on the highway in most other cities, so it's pretty reasonable. We're like that Eminem song: You only get one shot. We live in a city of go-getters and we most likely are one ourselves, so you better be able to make a plan. It'll easily take me 30 to 45 minutes to get there, and that's if all the trains haven't mysteriously shut down because of construction no one believes will actually ever fix anything, but that's a whole other thing. Which means we probably don't want to just "come over and hang out" for the majority of our first few dates.13.
I always laugh when guys in NYC say, "Man, why are women so on guard all the time? So do 12 construction workers on my way home and some weird asshole on the subway and Weird Barry who is always sitting outside my building. Sometimes it's just totally out-of-the-blue inappropriate touching, sometimes it's someone yelling at a waitress out of nowhere to the point where we're truly terrified, but the point is, between that and the street harassment, we might be a little on edge.3.
The island is great for, say, watching a cheesy musical or spending 0 on a bottle of vodka. In Manhattan, the numbers are even more dire, with 38 percent more young female college grads than male.
Birger says the imbalance is also exacerbated by New York’s large population of gay males.
“We saw a fervor for something just for them,” says Joshua Meyers, CEO of People Media, the targeted- dating subsidiary of IAC.
In April, Stitch.net, a Tinder-like dating app for the over-50 set, launched, and it’s set to debut a local New York section next month.